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Family30 Week 2: Things to REMOVE from Your Family

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Week 1: Things to ADD to Your Family

  1. God created the family, ordered the family, and must be at the top of your family.
  2. We live in a delegated authority. God gives it to the man. You are the covering, the leader, the Prophet, Priest, King, Warrior to the home. And you lead it along with your wife. Wives and husbands submit to one another. Submission means coming under the mission. We're on mission together.
  3. We should pray for, with, and over our families.
  4. Habits take time, but your atmosphere can change right now!

Some pointed, specific, hyper-focused things you need to remove from your family.

  1. Physical Abuse. If you are involved in that in your home, in Jesus name, you have to change that. Right now.
  2. Drug Abuse. If you or a family is doing that in your home, in Jesus name, you have to remove that. Right now!
  3. Withholding forgiveness. Holding grudges. We cannot withhold forgiveness. You may have been raised to punish people by holding a grudge. Really making them beg and squirm and grovel. I'm going to give you the silent treatment for a while. That's not GOD! He's not passive aggressive, and his Christian children shouldn't be either. God’s not passive aggressive. He’s just aggressive. God is aggressively chasing us down with forgiveness. He’s so aggressive, he sacrificed his son before any of us asked for forgiveness.

1. Remove _________________________ from your family.

Ephesians 5:21, Romans 12:10, Galatians 5:13

Ephesians 5:21, NLT - And further, submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.

Romans 12:10, BSB - Be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Outdo yourselves in honoring one another.

Practical Tips for Kids




Galatians 5:13, NLT - For you have been called to live in freedom, my brothers and sisters. But don’t use your freedom to satisfy your sinful nature. Instead, use your freedom to serve one another in love.

2. Remove _________________________ from your family.

Ephesians 4:29, Proverbs 18:21

Ephesians 4:29, NIV - Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.

Practical Tips




Prov 18:21 - The tongue can bring death or life;

3. Remove _________________________ from your family.

Ephesians 6:1-4

Ephesians 6:1-4 New International Version (NIV) - 6 Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. 2 “Honor your father and mother”—which is the first commandment with a promise— 3 “so that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth.”[a]

4 Fathers,[b] do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.

Here are some ways you might exasperate your kids:






Sometimes I feel like "Less Than" Dad. If you blew it, ask God to forgive you and ask your kids to forgive you too. If you ever feel less than, don't give up; just keep moving forward.

Why does everything seem so negative. Why does that family seem so positive? Maybe they’ve made room for it.

Every time you get rid of something negative in your life, you make room for something positive.